SEX- WHY SOME "CHRISTIAN SISTERS" Will NEVER Get Married

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Recently I was having a chat with a personal confidant, about the Ladies of nowadays. And then I remembered some thoughts I had while listening to Bishop TD Jakes.
When Samson left his Home land (Church), to pick Delilah (UnChurched) as a Wife, He must have seen something good in her that Girls in his Home side didn't have. Something strong enough that after each work day, He could only find comfort by laying his Head on her laps.

Here are my thoughts on why some "Sisters" may find it difficult to say "I DO".

SEXUAL NAIVETY: SEX before marriage is a NO-NO and I support those who support it; but being completely ignorant about SEXUAL matters is a bad idea. SEX in itself is a gift to humanity from God, and MEN tend to love it the most. As a Lady, its important you are well informed about SEX. Looking Sexy, Sex Styles, Best Time to Have Sex, Where to Have Sex and stuffs like that. Knowing these things is NOT a Sin, rather its a preparatory process. It helps you get prepared for marriage. 90% of MEN love sex, so a man is most likely attracted to that SISTER that he can foresee a beautiful sexual experience with. (Many couples are dying silent because of sexual issues)

IGNORANCE OF WORLD MATTERS:
Today's world is quite challenging, MEN want more than a wife. What they want is a PARTNER! Someone that they can plan a future with. Knowing how to Pray & Fast is good, Knowing how to recite Scriptures and dissect them is admirable, but a Woman that cannot Contribute Mentally to her Husband's Business/ Career is a Liability. As you spend time reading your bible, ensure you listening to Local & Foreign News, ensure you read about Financial matters, Ensure you learn something New that would make you a Valuable asset.

INABILITY TO COOK:
The way to most men's heart is FOOD! Many Ladies DON'T KNOW HOW TO COOK! Honestly! Back in the days, with just a few spices, Our Mothers can create delicacies that the whole house will enjoy. Today, give a 25 year old lady 5k, and she will cook something that dogs will reject. Learn the Art of Cooking. By Cooking Books, Watch Food Channels on TV, Experiment in the Kitchen... For Heaven's sake... Do All You Humanly Can to be  better cook. If you cook good, no matter how flirty your husband may be... He Will Always Come Back Home!

There is no Curse on your Head! Enough of the Midnight Deliverance Vigils! Enough of Moving from One Prophet to another! Apply these little secrets I've told  you, and you will see different men from around the world looking for your hand in MARRIAGE.

NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP MUST LEAD TO MARRIAGE!!!

Dating! Marriage! & Family!

I love you; you love me, the next thing… We are in love! Who tell you? Recently, I was chatting with a girl who told me that she is not ready to be with any guy that was not ready for marriage. I asked her, how old are you? She replied 18 and immediately I shook my head in dismay.

Our world is, moving so fast and we are gradually losing our ability to use our common sense, especially in relationships. How can you know a guy or girl that is ready to settle down without spending time with such a person? Haven’t you noticed that it’s the girls who seem to be most careful in their selection that turns out to be in a non-functioning relationship? This is because the more you think you know about relationship the less you truly know.

Yes, I’ve not forgotten my key topic which is the African Home, but we must begin to correct foundational errors if we are to hope for a better home in the future.

As humans we are created to need somebody, that’s why YOU are not alone in this world, hence the term RELATIONSHIP. The kind of relationship we have with our family, friends, colleagues, neighbors and even enemies determine how happy we would be in life. That’s why at every point in time; we must review our relationships to know which is beneficial to us or parasitic to our well being.

That said; let’s talk about the everyday “Boy like Girl, Girl like Boy” relationship (for now sha). There are certain things we need to straighten up if we are to enjoy a lasting and fulfilled relationship.

YOUR DREAM GUY/GIRL IS NOT REAL: 

Cinderella, Pocahontas, Barbie, and Snow White… bla bla blah… these are all fairytales. Don’t always expect your story to start or end up like theirs. Face the real life and live in the present. There are certain relationships that are never planned for, some even start with both parties antagonizing each other, only for them to later realize that that is their means of showing affection. Learn to appreciate people for who they are. An individual may have so many attributes you don’t like; but sometimes, the one little thing he is good at may just be the key to your lifetime happiness. The dream person may be perfect in the dream, but in reality, you’d discover that his/her perfection makes you feel imperfect in all you do.  It’s good to aim for perfection in all you do, but never forget that no one is perfect but God.

TIME IS A NON-NEGOTIABLE VALUE:

Don’t know the amount of relationship books you’ve read in time past, but know this for certain… The place of TIME cannot be substituted for anything in a relationship. The essence of relationship is to understand an individual properly. From the outside, you may have a hunch about someone’s personality or character, but until you get closer to such person, you may never know for certain who that person is or can be? Never be in a hurry to conclude about a person because as humans we can be very deceptive (especially guyz*I’m an exception sha, ask Yvonne Nelson*). The Europeans we are trying to copy hardly have a functioning relationship because they are too quick to love. Remember that the quicker you fall in love, the quicker it is to also fall out of love.

NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP MUST LEAD TO MARRIAGE;

Yes! I’m still sane and I aint a flirt like R.kelly… This is an erroneous notion that most sharp bad guyz....           
                                                                                                                              ( to be continued next week )