WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE TOLD NO?
Recently after seeing the names of certain players that were
dropped by their teams on route to the World Cup in Russia, I can only but
imagine what goes through their minds. The same questions some of us ask
ourselves when things don’t go as planned.
This is the same question a Lover Ponders on after experiencing a Break
Up!
This is the same question the Job Seeker who was turned down in his 9th
Interview within 3 months would ask!
This is the same question the young man whose proposal is turned down
time after time!
The same question the aspiring model, actor, musician or sculptor asks
when he isn’t selected after a tedious audition process!
Life isn’t fair, and sometimes it might seem that you are just singled
out to be punished by Mother Nature…
So, before
you make the next move after a NO/REJECTION in your life, please consider these
points!
1.
LIFE IS IN TIMES & SEASONS (YOUR SEASON WILL
COME) Since the time of Del Piero, there hasn’t been any ITALIAN Striker to
effectively score goals, till MARIO BALOTELLI came on board. When He did, it
was expected that He would remain there for a long time, but then for some
reasons, he was excluded from the Italian National team for 4 years. In the
life of a footballer, 4 years is like 10years. However, after the inability of
the Italian National team to qualify for the 2018 World Cup, Super Mario was
recalled backed into the team & presently, he is a key figure in their
rebuilding process. YES, someone may say
NO to you at a time; just keep being the better version of yourself… YOUR
SEASON is coming!
2.
NOT ALL THAT GLITTERS IS GOLD: There are certain
doors of opportunities that appear before us, and because of our desires &
wants at that moment, we dive into it, not necessarily looking at the BIG
picture. There are players who went to just ONE world cup, sustained and injury
& couldn’t return to their previous form ever! There are certain people who
got employed in a Job & instantly, lost their Joy, lost their family &
sadly lost their connection with divinity. While it hurts when a door is TURNED
AGAINST you, it is important to TRUST that everything will work out in your
favour. Sometimes, the things we push too hard for end up being the things that
END US.
3.
MAYBE IT’s TIME TO TRY SOMETHING ELSE: If you
are frequent with the Grass to Grace stories of some celebrities, you will realize
that REJECTION/NO helped them to re-invent & rediscover themselves. Until
we are stretched at times, we really don’t dig deep to FIND our real identity.
There are comedians that have never qualified for a staged audition, but if its
to act in a movie, their actions can make you roll on the floor with laughter.
There are actors who never “blew”; but the moment they tried a singing; it just
clicked for them. A NO sometimes is a subtle admonition to … Hey! Go try
something else.
4.
NO ONE IS AN ENEMY: In order to move forward
& still win, its important you understand that NO ONE IS AN ENEMY! Hating, disrespecting,
insulting the person who tells you NO doesn’t HELP YOU move forward
effectively. The mindset of ENEMY leaves resentment in a person’s heart &
this is never good for personal growth. At
that point in time, you may NOT be what is needed, but in time, you can still become
relevant. Don’t allow a person’s Ignorance about your worth make you stop low
to become like them. If you need to keep your distance, please do; if you need
closure, please ask questions (politely); if you need compensation; ask (if
given be happy, if not MOVE ON); bottom line, don’t give anybody the privilege
of thinking they STOPPE YOU from being unique, by tagging them ENEMIES.
5.
WE ARE ALL IMPERFECTLY PERFECT: Till we die, we
are all going to be WORK IN PROGRESS! That being said, we may NOT be able to
FIT IN everywhere or in everybody’s life at the same time. Leroy Sane, the
German winger who plays for Premier League Winning team Manchester City &
the winner of PYA was dropped from the German 2018 World Cup team. Does this
make him less of an Excellent player that He is? No! Absolutely not! At Manchester
City, He is Coach Pep Guadiola’s trusted
weapon of destruction; but to Germany’s Coach Low, he is a Work In Progress!
So, just because, one person can’t sacrifice to make you better, doesn’t make
you useless! Rather than sulk, beef or feel depressed; appreciate your strengths
and trust that the one who deserves what you have will come your way.
Conclusively, it is always said that LIFE IS LESS OF WHAT
HAPPENS TO YOU AND MORE OF HOW YOU RESPOND!
I really hope I’ve been able to rekindle someone’s FAITH in themselves.
YOU ARE UNIQUELY BEAUTIFUL!
